I am not a Physical Touch kind of gal. As a child I loved giving hugs. I was a hugger in every way. I don't know how it disappeared or if it will ever return but one thing I have relished in was the hugs from my children. When Malakai was a wee one he loved to give hugs. He was always wrapping his chubby little hands around my neck and squeezing. Sometime in Malakai's younger years the hugs went away. Malakai hit a stressful time in his life where he was angry, frustrated, and sad. His favorite line was "you broke my heart." He wore his teeth down to nothing from grinding and even now has little to no teeth in the front. Not because he lost them like most kids his age but because he clamps down on them and works away at them daily. While there is nothing I can do about the grinding, I did take him to a Homeopath and found that his Copper level was extremely low. Fast forward a few months and it brings us to last night.
Blaine and I usually never fight. We don't usually bicker in front of others, but neither are we perfect. Last night we had a big argument and unfortunately it was in front of the kids. Right in between it all, Malakai jumps on my bed comes over to me, wraps his chubby little arms around my neck and gives me the softest, reassuring hug and then he kisses me.
That one hug brought me back to a time when snuggling came so natural to him, that one hug brought my Malakai back to me. So, while arguing was not the right way about it, and while it was not something we wanted to give our kids front row seats too. It made me realize that life is too short to bicker over stupid things and when you think no one is watching, someone always is.
Feb 28, 2011
Feb 23, 2011
Wednesday morning update
I figured that with Yesterday being such a good day I should probably post something now incase today goes down hill.
So, the mountain of laundry is almost done. This is a big thing in our house seeing as we usually need to do a load a day otherwise everyone is soon out of underwear, socks and any thing else that matters when it comes to dressing ... Hold that thought.
Well, it was a great idea for me to post about yesterday now because it is only 6:45 am and the upstairs toilet decided to plug and literally flood. so much for my caught up laundry.
Blaine is doing well with Fire Fighting Training and really enjoying it. He took a safety course and scored the highest out of the class, getting only two questions wrong. Had he got those two right he would have been the first to receive $500.00 so he did pretty darn good if you ask me. He gets his first controlled fire experience this Sunday.
Ginny loves babies! Since the Dolsky's have had another baby she gets to pour all of her love on toddler Izzy and all her snuggling on baby Eden. Just last week she babysat for her very first time. While 9 is still quite young I felt confident in her watching some school aged children while they slept and their parents and us were just down the street. She was so excited to make $15.00. I love her maturity when it needs to be shown and her genuine kidness when we are alone in our home. Ginny can't wait to save enough money for a DS.
Malakai loves quality time and alone time hand in hand. On Monday morning it was just him and Blaine and I and it was us who had to ask him if he wanted to play. Of course he wanted to play Wii but I ended up convincing him of Lego instead. He surprises me every time with his creativity. The kid is amazing at what he can create. He is always showing us space vehicles, with unique contraptions. He is so much like is daddy in so many ways. He loves crazy ride, he loves crazy sayings, he has a crazy temper (as I am listening to him tell his brother he hates him right now) and he is just crazy all around.
Keegan loves junk food and only junk food. I am a super smart Mom and know how to manipulate my son when it comes to food though. Take fish for instance. Keegan dislikes fish with a passion. Keegan loves cheese though, especially the stinky stuff that goes on Spaghetti. So, I found fish with parmesan cheese. What Blaine thought would be grose turned out very yummy and worked like a charm. Keegan loves spending time with us on the Play station, watching a movie or playing mancala or chess. while we are going through some tough pre teen days he is still very loveable, pouring the love on his dogs and family when he wants too.
Well, that leaves me. I have been working hard on the physical side of things. Seems like Jillian Michaels 30 day shred is a hit with some friends of ours so I have been working out for 20 minutes each day, five days a week. It is especially great having encouragement and friends to work out with. Sometimes I miss a day or two but usually fill it with things like .... a 4km hike in the snow. Crazy!!! I can feel a difference in my endurance and Blaine says I am firming up but so far no loss in pounds. Frustrating but I am going to stick with it. Besides working out, tea with friends, spending time with the kids, and killing Zombies with Blaine I am up to nothing else. After all where would I fit anything else in. :)
So, the mountain of laundry is almost done. This is a big thing in our house seeing as we usually need to do a load a day otherwise everyone is soon out of underwear, socks and any thing else that matters when it comes to dressing ... Hold that thought.
Well, it was a great idea for me to post about yesterday now because it is only 6:45 am and the upstairs toilet decided to plug and literally flood. so much for my caught up laundry.
Blaine is doing well with Fire Fighting Training and really enjoying it. He took a safety course and scored the highest out of the class, getting only two questions wrong. Had he got those two right he would have been the first to receive $500.00 so he did pretty darn good if you ask me. He gets his first controlled fire experience this Sunday.
Ginny loves babies! Since the Dolsky's have had another baby she gets to pour all of her love on toddler Izzy and all her snuggling on baby Eden. Just last week she babysat for her very first time. While 9 is still quite young I felt confident in her watching some school aged children while they slept and their parents and us were just down the street. She was so excited to make $15.00. I love her maturity when it needs to be shown and her genuine kidness when we are alone in our home. Ginny can't wait to save enough money for a DS.
Malakai loves quality time and alone time hand in hand. On Monday morning it was just him and Blaine and I and it was us who had to ask him if he wanted to play. Of course he wanted to play Wii but I ended up convincing him of Lego instead. He surprises me every time with his creativity. The kid is amazing at what he can create. He is always showing us space vehicles, with unique contraptions. He is so much like is daddy in so many ways. He loves crazy ride, he loves crazy sayings, he has a crazy temper (as I am listening to him tell his brother he hates him right now) and he is just crazy all around.
Keegan loves junk food and only junk food. I am a super smart Mom and know how to manipulate my son when it comes to food though. Take fish for instance. Keegan dislikes fish with a passion. Keegan loves cheese though, especially the stinky stuff that goes on Spaghetti. So, I found fish with parmesan cheese. What Blaine thought would be grose turned out very yummy and worked like a charm. Keegan loves spending time with us on the Play station, watching a movie or playing mancala or chess. while we are going through some tough pre teen days he is still very loveable, pouring the love on his dogs and family when he wants too.
Well, that leaves me. I have been working hard on the physical side of things. Seems like Jillian Michaels 30 day shred is a hit with some friends of ours so I have been working out for 20 minutes each day, five days a week. It is especially great having encouragement and friends to work out with. Sometimes I miss a day or two but usually fill it with things like .... a 4km hike in the snow. Crazy!!! I can feel a difference in my endurance and Blaine says I am firming up but so far no loss in pounds. Frustrating but I am going to stick with it. Besides working out, tea with friends, spending time with the kids, and killing Zombies with Blaine I am up to nothing else. After all where would I fit anything else in. :)
Jan 23, 2011
Five Love Languages
Have you heard about the five love languages? In case you haven't, they will follow.
It seems like the five love languages subject is popping up everywhere for us these days. When Signing up for classes in Breakforth two of the classes were the five love languages for kids and the five love languages for teens. Blaine and I thought it would be cool to sign up for one and learn the love language that our kids speak.
But what about us? Well, years and years ago we took the quiz ourselves. I can't even remember what the results were, all I remember was getting a kick out of the fact that quality time was at the bottom of both our lists. :) February is the month for love and apparently everyone is on the same page. In February our church is having a Love Language date night for couples. It will be a fun evening with dinner (I think) and a fun way of learning the language of Love that our spouse speaks. I thought it would be fun if I took a guess at which love language everyone speaks in our little family and see how intuitive I am. So, here goes.
Blaine - Physical touch. He is always wanting a hug, wanting to cuddle, wanting me to tickle his back.
Keegan - A strong lead for Gift receiving and physical touch. Keegan loves to surprise everyone with gifts and usually what they want they tend to give. Of course physical touch is either an addiction trickled down through the generations or something that he actually likes himself.
Ginny - This is a tough one she loves to go on dates one on one but at the same time she like to encourage and and gives lots of hugs. Seeing as I need to pick one, I think her strongest would be words of affirmation.
Malakai - Another difficult one. I think he is still a little young to really see his love language but it I would say acts of service or quality time. That little man is always offering to help. Just yesterday when we were really, really stuck he said ... "Mommy, I can push us out."
Myself - I think my language would be words of affirmation and receiving gifts. I love Christmas when there are all kinds of surprises in the mail boxes and on my desk. I also really feel a lot better about how things are going when people encourage me.
So there you have it. Now I guess I just wait and see how off or how close I really am.
If you are interested in coming to our LOVE LANGUAGE date night just let me know and I will get you more details. Everyone is invited and tickets are $10.00/couple.
The Five Languages of Love
Words of Affirmation
Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important—hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten.
Quality Time
In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, “I love you,” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby—makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful.
Receiving Gifts
Don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous—so would the absence of everyday gestures.
Acts of Service
Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter.
And finally,
Physical Touch
This language isn’t all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive.
It seems like the five love languages subject is popping up everywhere for us these days. When Signing up for classes in Breakforth two of the classes were the five love languages for kids and the five love languages for teens. Blaine and I thought it would be cool to sign up for one and learn the love language that our kids speak.
But what about us? Well, years and years ago we took the quiz ourselves. I can't even remember what the results were, all I remember was getting a kick out of the fact that quality time was at the bottom of both our lists. :) February is the month for love and apparently everyone is on the same page. In February our church is having a Love Language date night for couples. It will be a fun evening with dinner (I think) and a fun way of learning the language of Love that our spouse speaks. I thought it would be fun if I took a guess at which love language everyone speaks in our little family and see how intuitive I am. So, here goes.
Blaine - Physical touch. He is always wanting a hug, wanting to cuddle, wanting me to tickle his back.
Keegan - A strong lead for Gift receiving and physical touch. Keegan loves to surprise everyone with gifts and usually what they want they tend to give. Of course physical touch is either an addiction trickled down through the generations or something that he actually likes himself.
Ginny - This is a tough one she loves to go on dates one on one but at the same time she like to encourage and and gives lots of hugs. Seeing as I need to pick one, I think her strongest would be words of affirmation.
Malakai - Another difficult one. I think he is still a little young to really see his love language but it I would say acts of service or quality time. That little man is always offering to help. Just yesterday when we were really, really stuck he said ... "Mommy, I can push us out."
Myself - I think my language would be words of affirmation and receiving gifts. I love Christmas when there are all kinds of surprises in the mail boxes and on my desk. I also really feel a lot better about how things are going when people encourage me.
So there you have it. Now I guess I just wait and see how off or how close I really am.
If you are interested in coming to our LOVE LANGUAGE date night just let me know and I will get you more details. Everyone is invited and tickets are $10.00/couple.
The Five Languages of Love
Words of Affirmation
Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important—hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten.
Quality Time
In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, “I love you,” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby—makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful.
Receiving Gifts
Don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous—so would the absence of everyday gestures.
Acts of Service
Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter.
And finally,
Physical Touch
This language isn’t all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive.
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